Dec 8, 2016

December's Picture The Possibilities

Basking in the Sun by Darcy Sime Photography -
Harmony Quote -

Are you feeling the tug between blending in or standing out? This, at times, can feel less harmonious than you’d like.

If you classify yourself as an introvert, you may be accused of being antisocial or have feelings that you don't quite fit in. You may feel comfortable blending in, but struggle to stand out when it matters; such as, in professional circumstances or when trying to make an impression within social circles. 

Extroverts appear to have preference in our society and it seems because of their boldness and aggressive nature they get better opportunities. 

Falling in the middle, which is called ambivert would seem to be the perfect balance between the two. On the other hand, Susan Cain, in this Ted Talks The Power of Introverts shares her view on the advantages and blessings of being an introvert

There is a difference between shyness and being an introvert. Shyness is fear of social judgment and introversion is how you respond to stimulation. 

Extroverts crave large amounts of stimulation and introverts feel most alive and more capable when they are in quieter surroundings. This may not be all the time, but a lot of the time.
In order to maximize our talents we need to be in the environment that works best for us. 

A third to a half of the population is introverts. They are your co-workers, spouses, friends and children. We need introverts in our communities and in our workplaces. They need to shine and contribute to what they do best. 

Susan Cain explains that in many workplaces and schools are the expectations to be more extroverted. It's perceived that this is the way to become successful.  Routinely, introverts are often passed over for leadership roles. However, it's been researched that introverts often deliver better outcomes. Some of our more prominent leaders have been introverts - Eleanor Roosevelt, Gandhi and Rosa Parks to name a few. They took the spotlight because they were driven to do what they thought was right not because they were extroverts. 

Most people find themselves a little of both, but recognize and lean towards being either extrovert or introvert. Our culture needs a better balance between these two types. Understanding that solitude and autonomy is crucial to creativity and it matters in discovering new ideas; then bringing those ideas to life by collaborating and working as a team. 

This is the harmony between blending in and standing out. 

Susan Cain's 3 Calls to Action:
  1. Stop the madness for constant group work. Collaboration is important for all types, but solitude and autonomy should also be encouraged.
  2. Go to the wilderness. Have your own revelations. We could all stand to unplug and get inside our own heads more often. 
  3. Recognize and be self-aware of what you have to offer. Share your talents with others. This is meant especially for introverts. Occasionally, it’s good to spread your energy and joy; the world needs what you have to offer.

Picture The Possibilities!

This is the FINAL installment of my monthly series called "Picture the Possibilities" and it goes without saying that I've enjoyed this endeavor of selecting photographs from Darcy's Flickr collection and combining them with a quote or a theme each month.  

Not only has it challenged my creative writing, but it's broadened my knowledge on different subjects from growth to triumph; daydreaming to reflection and right up to balance and harmony. It has pushed me to be more transparent.  

The introvert in me needed that!  

To see the whole year's series, you can check out the collection here.

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   A Square of Chocolate,
Laurie O 

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  1. Miss Laurie,
    I have to say this article and video has popped up onto my computer screen with perfect timing. I really enjoyed the video and will be listening to it a second time after I finish this comment to you. I'm sitting home alone today (hubby at all day seminar) and have been up since 6am drinking my ever loved coffee latte's (yes plural!) while writing my novel contemplating the fact that the main character seems to be turning out as more of an introvert on paper than what I expected. I wasn't sure if that's what this main character should be...I'm changing my mind for more reasons than one after reading this article and listening to Susan Cain!!! Thank I can finish what I started, alone with no interruptions or people to attend to other than the characters on my computer screen!
    (P.S. I could really relate to her camp and bag of books story. Absolutely loved that part as well)
    Love ya cous,

    1. Dearest Brenda, timing is everything and I'm so glad this popped up at the right time to give you inspiration. Inspiration is a wonderful thing and it trickles down to more people than we realize. So happy to hear you're moving along with the novel. I could relate to this video, as well. I believe I'm more of an introvert than I thought. Thanks for taking the time to comment and share your thoughts. Keep the coffee flowing! xoxo

  2. This is such a great reminder! I think it is so important to realize how we work and to find the right balance for ourselves.

    1. Absolutely Jennifer! I also believe a little push out of our comfort zone has some great rewards. Thanks for stopping by and glad you found value in the message.

  3. Solitude and autonomy--why I've been self-employed and have worked at home for 20-plus years now!

    1. Perfect, sounds like this suits you Roxanne. Finding what works for us means success!


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