Aug 12, 2015

Soul Searching With Grace and Frankie

You might think the best place to do some soul searching would be high on a mountain top doing some deep meditation. Maybe, even a secluded cabin in the woods far from any interruptions while getting in touch with nature. Or, possibly a private oceanfront beach house to sit lazily on the beach listening to the ocean waves and becoming more in tuned to one’s thoughts. 

In my case, I didn't have the luxury of doing any of those things. My soul searching was simply just taking some time off from my blog writing, minimizing time spent on social media (mainly Facebook) and unplugging from watching television. 

I was finding that there was too much noise going on around me and, most certainly, too much noise and conflict in my head. Not hearing voices kind of noise, but having too many unfocused thoughts. It was getting too busy in there. It was time to regroup and refocus. 

So, I took more time to read and to catch up on other people’s blogs. Did some bike riding and exercised more. 

Sat down by the lake, breathed deeper and took time to notice the beauty.  

I napped more and decided to take more alone time to unwind and not feel guilty about it. Physically I didn't need it, but my mind did.  

Then oddly enough, without completely unplugging from modern conveniences, I managed to inject some humor in my spare time to watch a series on Netflix (commercial free) called “Grace and Frankie.”

Let me just say, if you have the option to watch this on Netflix, then this one is a must!! The show is starring Jane Fonda, Lily Tomlin, Martin Sheen and Sam Waterston.  Grace and Frankie have been rivals. Their one-upmanship comes crashing to a halt, however, when they learn that their husbands have fallen in love with each other and want to get married. As everything around the ladies is coming apart, the only thing they can really rely on is each other.’ -

Watching this show came at such a good time, because it helped to disengage from some of the noise and remember how laughter is a very essential part of soul searching. 

  • Self-analysis of our own motive or attitude toward something. Looking deep within ourselves to find why we think or act the way we do, regarding a particular situation.
  • Examination of one's conscience especially with regard to motives and values.
  • A close and penetrating analysis of oneself, esp. in an effort to determine one's true feelings and desires.

Just like Grace and Frankie, who are in need of doing their own soul searching after 40-50 years of marriage through some unbelievable changes - I, too, needed some soul searching, but on a different level. I wanted to figure out MY direction and what the next move or goal should be. 

So, after the reading, biking, lake gazing, napping and Netflixing - you may be asking, what did I get out of all this soul searching?

I got that you can make vagina lubricant from yams!! Aaaand besides it being a lubricant, you can also put it on toast.

Like Frankie (Lily Tomlin) said "you shouldn't put anything in your vagina that you would not put in your mouth."

I KNOW! Mind BLOWN....right?!?

Don't ever underestimate the power of soul searching. You may get answers to things before even knowing the questions.  

Seriously, it's a good show.  Love it!

I realized it all comes back to humor and expressing it in writing is what serves me.

It shouldn't matter if no else gets or understands what you're doing or not doing, it just matters that it means something to YOU and makes YOU happy!

Once you find out what THAT is and what you're about - only then will it bring happiness, satisfaction and confidence.

Everyone should do some soul searching at some point. Whatever works for you - is it a mountain top, cabin in the woods or sitting on the beach? It could be as close as your couch enjoying some alone time with Netflix and "a square of chocolate." 

It worked for me!

Like Frankie said "I know not where this road leads, but I know that I will return changed."

Have you done any soul searching? Or, have you used yams as a lubricant? Please, DO TELL!

Put your smile on,
Laurie O

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  1. I'm enjoying my summer too. Taking time away from social media is something I have to do quite often. We also watched this show a few months ago and loved it. Not yams, but coconut oil is the best! I'm thinking yams are a bit sticky for me.

    1. Yeah, not sold on the yam thing either. Coconut oil has many purposes, but didn't think of that one. Ha! Grace and Frankie is my new fave!

  2. Laurie, I tried to find your email as I wanted to write you privately. Couldn't find it on your blog. Anyways, I was wondering if you are going to go to the MN Blogging conference? I just bought my ticket and would love to connect with you again, there.

  3. At the start of summer I had a break up of a longterm relationship and Grace and Frankie helped get e through it! I was feeling low and down but spent the summer getting to relearn and learn to love who Rachee is, bumps, bruises and all.

    1. Rachee, sorry about your break up, but glad Grace and Frankie helped you through it. Humor and finding who you are brings it all back into perspective. Wishing you well and thanks for sharing. :)

  4. Hi Laurie - I loved this post - it sums up my last 6 months or so - lots of soul searching, quit my job, bought a bike, took time off to smell the roses and found my mojo again in the process. I'll be back to read more of your posts now you've returned from relaxing!

    1. Thanks Leanne, we all need time to get back our mojo once in awhile. Sounds like you really did a turnaround. Glad you visited and I'll be watching for more from you, as well.

  5. Great post, Laurie. I don't get NetFlix, so I can't check out the show. But it does sound like a winner! Soul searching and a piece of chocolate are good -- in whatever form we can get them!

    1. Thanks Doreen! You and I are on the same chocolate wave length! It's good for the soul :)


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